BOOOM. Read this if you are a dude, please.
Its hard for men to understand why women dont get loud & angry because they havent spent their entire lives being reprimanded whenever they take up too much space. (via pluralfloral)
#1 is pretty good, but #6 is priceless.
1. “Honestly, silence is consent.”
2. “So they didn’t say anything for two whole years? Surely that’s not really on you, that’s on them for not saying anything. They just sat on that and whipped it out when you’re in the shit? Yeah right.”
3. “As you said ‘every photo sent was in direct response to either a photo received or a specific request, mutually agreed upon by two consenting adults.’ so I don’t see the reason for such humiliating apologies. This way it looks that you are guilty and them completely innocent. American moral sometimes confuses my european brain.”
4. “Yeah, this sudden indignation sounds a little fishy if you ask me. Who cares about a stupid photo from two years back.”
5. “…but what is the huge deal here? We’ve all sent ‘explicit’ pics in our time(we’re all adults here), if these women had a problem then they should have called you out for it two years ago!”
6. “Not a single time did you come out and point fingers at the women who you were involved in relationships with , blaming them for sending you mixed signals and misleading you.”
7. “Mistakes do not make sexual harassment. As a human being, you misread another’s intentions, and that is okay. Had they spoken up sooner, you likely would have felt very bad about it, but not looked at it as harassment.”
8. “As long as it was adult women I can’t see any flaws in your behaveour! If the women felt violated, they should have told so at once! What’s it with you americans and your urge to make such a big deal out of everything sexualy orientated? You’re a young guy wih a healthy appetite for sex, no big deal! - And now, back to the drawingboard, you rascal you!”
9. “I wont go into the whole validity of your guilt or the questionable level of their “unwanted attention” but I have to admit it does bother me that these people waited two years before drudging this up.”
10. “If I ever sent an intimate photo of myself to someone, and they made it publicly known, I would be devastatingly offended. I’m sorry this happened to you Yale, but you deserve just as much discretion in your sex life as any woman would demand.”
in sum: yale stewart is really the victim and the accusers are horrible villains whose supposed initial unwillingness to step forward is proof of their spurious falsehoods
Think about anyone who has come out as bisexual in the media. Megan Fox, Billie Joe Armstrong, Margaret Cho, Anna Paquin, Megan Mullally, David Bowie, Angelina Jolie.
Their sexuality is usually glossed over — often times, the media decides the person is either gay or straight, depending the relationship they are currently in or the relationship they get into in the future. If a man comes out as bisexual and in the future gets into a relationship with another man, people generally define him as homosexual (such as Alan Cumming). It’s important to note both homosexual and heterosexual people are monosexual and only attracted to one gender. In saying someone is straight or gay based on who they are currently with totally negates an individual’s identity.
Several people throughout have been classified as monosexual, despite identifying as bi. Marlon Brando himself was bisexual and he’s well-known as a “manly” man, it’s no surprise that people would want to erase his sexuality to fit their perception of him. Anne Frank was also bisexual; she wrote about having a love for girls and wanting a girl to date in her diaries. Angelina Jolie is one of the most well-known bisexuals and she still gets marked under a monosexual title because of her long term relationship with Brad Pitt. Yet, in doing this, people are neglecting her identity.
You know what’s really telling about this?
Bisexual men are almost always considered to be “gay” if they are or have been in a relationship with a man, and regardless of if they’ve had female ex’s
Bisexual women are usually ignored as still being “straight” if they’ve ever been in a relationship with a man, even if there are photos of them making out with and holding hands with a girl.
Regardless of the person’s gender, it’s the history of relationships with men, (not with women, not with the opposite gender, not with the same gender) that people almost exclusively use when they’re trying to define bisexual people as “straight” or “gay”.
Watch Dogs’ narrative stumbles are bad enough, but it ventures into even more troublesome territory with some of its representation. Female characters in Watch Dogs are victims, to be kidnapped or murdered in the interest of plot or character motivation and are almost all overtly sexualized. Black characters fall into two camps — the aforementioned victims, or, just as maddeningly, criminals. The city of Chicago has an incredibly complicated, difficult history with race, discrimination and segregation. This is a difficult subject to explore in any kind of entertainment. But Watch Dogs’ portrayal of Chicago’s racial divide seems potentially tone-deaf.
Meanwhile, the Profiler’s “flavor text,” dynamic descriptions assigned to the randomly created NPCs that fill Watch Dogs’ Chicago, frequently seem to be lowest-common denominator attempts at humor. When I saw “transgender” and similar attributes presented as throwaway personality quirks, I wasn’t laughing.
It makes me angry that I have to do this, but I’m going to do it anyway. Last week at Denver Comic Con, I went to a panel on women and body image in comics that I had very high hopes for. It was modded by the same woman who’d modded the very excellent Geek Girl panel earlier that day, and had two of the same panelists, but it was absolutely ruined by the actions of one man. I forgot his name because, quite honestly, I started calling him Douchey McFuckface about two minutes into the panel, but I got it from the mod through Twitter. It’s Andrew Mark of Legacy Action Comics, and his Twitter can be found here at https://twitter.com/LegacyAC. I would not normally do this, but this man, over the course of the panel:
*Asked the audience who thought women in comics were objectified, and when the entire audience raised their hands, said “Are you fucking stupid?”
*Justified the hypersexualized portrayal of women in comic books with “Artists just draw what writers give them, it’s the writer’s fault”
*Cut off a professor of media studies in mid-sentence when she tried to point out that yes, there is a connection between media and body image
*Insisted that men and women were equally objectified in comics because Superman has underwear on the outside of his costume
*Interrupted an audience member who was asking a question to talk about how “fucking hilarious” the Hawkeye Initiative is after it was explained by another audience member
*Browsed on his phone during the panel, ignoring audience questions entirely
*When I tried to explain the difference between attraction and objectification, responded by saying inequalities in objectification were clearly women’s fault, because women need to objectify men more
*Glared at and refused to answer an audience member after he tried to defend not drawing muscles on women by saying “we don’t have time for that” and she quite reasonably asked why, then, he had time to draw muscles on men
*Asked the audience if they “know comics aren’t real, right?”
*And, as a capper, used the phrase “twinks” as a homophobic slur at the end of the panel
I have probably been to forty panels at five different cons now, and I have never witnessed a panelist being so actively cruel, rude, and downright unprofessional during a panel. It’s sad because Legacy Action Comics is the kind of small local venture I would normally like to support, but given his behavior, I want everyone to know exactly how unprofessional and misogynistic this man is. At the panel, they openly chastised the audience and essentially told them that the continuing portrayal of skimpily clothed women in comics was their fault, because they “didn’t do anything about it” and “money talks.” Well, I’m doing something about it, and I hope money does talk. If anyone has bought/heard of Legacy Action comics, please don’t buy from them any more-I know I don’t want my money going to support someone who thinks these behaviors and attitudes are acceptable, and I hope you don’t want yours going their either. It’s sad because Legacy Action Comics is, by all appearances, the kind of small, local business I would normally go out of my way to support, but through his boorish and misogynistic behavior, Andrew Mark absolutely shot that in the foot.
I will probably be posting some more of the arguments I heard at this panel, and dissecting their fallaciousness, later, but for now I just wanted to get this out there and let people know that this kind of behavior is not acceptable and (hopefully) will not be tolerated by the geek community.
Avenger Black Widow is one of the best bets, as a S.H.I.E.L.D. agent who has already proven herself on-screen, and with a spy skill set that can break superhero cinema out of the usual origin-story rut…But instead of being seen as powerful and dynamic characters who could lead their own films, a double standard is applied to superheroines. The men lead, and the women support, no matter how powerful their characters are. Marvel head Kevin Feige has actually repeatedly expressed happiness at how his company has handled female superheroes. He is perfectly happy to have the female characters support the men, rather than feel pressure over the company’s very recognizable exclusion of female stars: “I’m very proud of the way the Marvel movies handle the female characters […] as opposed to feeling the pressure of ‘When are you doing a female movie?’”
Intentional or not, Feige’s words express a palpable disinterest in the female superheroes audiences clearly want to see. In the same interview, he blows off the idea of a Black Widow solo movie with that same old standby: “If we had a great idea, we’d do it.”
The fact is that if Feige desired it, it would happen — and the Marvel head has a history of making his desires a reality. “It became a secret dream” of his “to have a second bite at the apple” when Hulk crashed and burned in 2003. In five short years, Bruce Banner was back for The Incredible Hulk — another film that missed the mark, before the character finally hit, four years later, when Mark Ruffalo took over in The Avengers. That time, Feige made it happen, and poor returns on Marvel’s investments didn’t stop him.
inspiration for what i’ll be wearing in 2014
omg these lists!!
don’t wear stripes, don’t wear solid colors, don’t wear dark colors, don’t wear light colors, don’t wear sandals, don’t wear sneakers, don’t wear pumps, don’t wear shorts, but wear hot shorts, not those shorts, or those, don’t wear your hair up, or short, or long, don’t dye it, unless i hate it then dye it, don’t wear yoga pants, or jeans, or leggings, or skirts above the belly button, or below the knee, or sleeveless things, or things with long sleeves, etc.
fuck dudes and fuck these lists.
where is the list for things men wear that women hate??? huh?
basketball shorts when you are not playing basketball, sandals and socks, long socks with shorts, the same plaid shirt in varying shades of red or blue, cargo pants, flip flops outside the beach or pool, popped collars, meme t-shirts, chain wallets, cell phone holsters, puka shell necklaces, mesh tanks, bowling shirts,
I mean really
[Martin Freeman in an interview for The Hobbit, discussing dating an Elf]
Interviewer: "And the height difference doesn’t matter?"
Freeman: “Not at all, I’ve got a ladder. And I’ve got drugs. I can just make them [indicates someone falling unconscious] Slip something in their goblet. Oh, someone will get offended by that now, because they’ll call it ‘rape’ or whatever. But, you know, for me it’s a helping hand. Maybe I should stop talking.”
[source at 2:29]